So I enjoy watching the Rachel Ray show and she likes to play a little game with some of the celebrity guests called “going too far”. Where they give a topic and they ask two audience members(one arguing for and one against) to put forth their opinions and then the celebrity guest tells their opinion. Sometimes it can get pretty heated and other times it’s funny and wacky!

Today she had Chandra Wilson who plays Dr. Miranda Bailey on Grey’s Anatomy. They played “going too far?” and the topic was a book titled Beside Every Successful Man by Megan Basham. The best way to describe the madness is to put the reviews from the book jacket on here … From Publishers Weekly
Especially for women who want to “embrace a slower-paced, more graceful, family-oriented life” (feminists and career gals need not apply), Basham has created a guide for helping one’s man achieve success (and, thus, get one’s own in the process). Basham is straightforward and practical (if occasionally overbearing), complete with infomercial-quality promises like “Using your PR savvy to increase household cash flow.” Her logical, step by step plan for helping a mate succeed involves locating and supporting his strengths, communicating and motivating, and using your own skills in a “stand by your man” capacity that doesn’t preclude stepping up front every once in a while. Basham frequently cites celebrity examples-MSNBC host Chris Matthews, country singer Alan Jackson, the Obamas–to drive home points, but her conservative inclinations will be a turn-off for some. Those looking for solid advice on how to motivate, understand, communicate with and help a mate succeed will find this time well spent, with techniques generally transferable to children, bosses or friends.
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I’m at a loss for words! As were Rachel and Chandra might I add! It’s good that they put a disclaimer in there that feminists and career gals need not apply. Another sub-group is women with self-esteem. Even when I was a stay at home mom my husband’s career was his business! Yeah when he did well I was happy for him, and if he wanted my help typing up a resume I would, but I would not make contacts for him or make my success as a woman be dependant on my husband’s success in his career! In my experience, that would have been impossible(and in my ex’s case extremely unwise).

Who is this stupid bitch anyway that she felt compelled to write a book all about defining yourself by what you can do for your husband?!? She is woman who is alone and can’t have a lasting relationship so she writes a book about all things she isn’t doing thinking if other do what she hasn’t done, then maybe it will be like returning them to the days of June Cleaver. But the women cant go back to those days…I don’t even think June Cleaver was a June Cleaver type. Maybe when then camera was rolling but in real life that would never have worked! It isn’t a realistic way to tell a woman to live her life and expect happiness.

This is the great thing about freedom of speech…she can write down her archaic crappy ideas down and get someone to print them and then people like me can criticize them all to hell. I love America!